It’s not me. At least not this time. It’s my boyfriend, or do I dare say fiancé. This morning, out of nowhere, he says, “I think it’s time for you to come out of your locs.”
Mind you, at the time I was in the mirror retightening my locs. Interestingly, although I’ve considered it off and on over the last few years, I immediately became defensive of my lovely locs.
“Why would you say that?” But I didn’t give him a chance to respond because I didn’t need to hear his reason. While he may have been the main cheerleader in my corner when I was transitioning into locs, giving me courage and confidence to do it, I long since stopped needing that kind of support from him or anyone else.
I know sometimes he misses my loose hair. Like I’ve said on this blog before, I do too. However, the difference between he and I is that he misses my straightened hair, something I don’t miss at all.
So I told him I have no plans of straightening my hair again. If and when I come out of my locs I’ll be engaging in a different transition: embracing my loose natural hair. Im already preparing for that day. As such, if he’s not ready for THAT, he bests be quiet and keep loving’ my locs like or do!
Weigh in, please? How would you have handled that statement from your man/woman?